You’ve done so much work on yourself. You’ve read all the books, listened to the podcasts, analyzed every pattern from childhood to now. You’ve thought your problems to death…yet the same feelings still show up. Your heart still races when you get feedback from your boss. You still shut down when someone’s tone shifts. You still feel that lump in your throat when you try to rest, like your body doesn’t trust that it’s safe to slow down. How can you relax when there’s so much to do?

You’ve tried therapy before, and it helped — to an extent. You understood yourself better, but your body didn’t seem to get the memo. You keep saying, “I know why I do this… I just can’t stop doing it.”

If that sounds familiar, you’re not broken. Your nervous system isholding onto old stuff that talking alone can’t reach.

That’s where EMDR therapy comes in.

Many of my clients (especially neurodivergent career- driven moms) come to therapy feeling like their nervous system is always running on overdrive.

And if you’ve been through hard or overwhelming experiences, big or small, your brain might be holding onto them in ways that keep you stuck. That’s where EMDR therapy can really help.

So, What Exactly is EMDR?

EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. It’s a type of therapy that helps your brain digest memories and experiences that are still hanging around in your nervous system.

In EMDR, we don’t need to rehash every detail of what happened. Instead, we work with how those memories live in your body — the feelings, images, and thoughts that come up when you’re reminded of something painful. Through gentle bilateral stimulation (back-and-forth eye movements, tapping, or audible tones), your brain starts to process those memories more effectively. It’s kind of like restarting your computer after it’s been frozen.

Making EMDR Neurodivergent-Affirming

If you are neurodivergent and reading this, it may not surprise you that traditional therapy models don’t always fit how neurodivergent minds and bodies work. So, when I offer EMDR therapy, I make sure the process is flexible, sensory-friendly, and affirming of how you best function.

That might look like:

• Slowing the pace so your nervous system feels safe enough to actually engage.
• Using your natural strengths — maybe you process visually, through movement, or by thinking in metaphors. We use that.
• Adjusting sensory elements — like using weighted blankets, fidget tools, or dim lighting if that helps your body settle.
• Permission to stim, move, or take breaks. Your body’s cues matter more than “doing therapy the right way.”
• Honoring parts of you (like your analytical brain or your protective parts) instead of pushing them aside.

In short: I create a safe space where you don’t feel like you have to mask.

EMDR for Career-Driven Moms

So many of the moms I work with are balancing careers, parenting, and the invisible labor of holding everything together. When you’re neurodivergent, that can be extra exhausting. EMDR can help reduce the emotional intensity of old experiences — things like medical trauma, burnout, grief, or feeling like you’ve had to “keep it together” for everyone else.

Clients often describe EMDR as helping them finally exhale. It’s not about erasing the past — it’s about helping your body and mind stop reliving it. It actually stops showing up in sneaky ways (like, no longer beating yourself after you make a mistake…no longer having a visceral response when you find out you weren’t invited to your friend’s baby shower).

EMDR in Newington, CT and Online

If you’re local to Connecticut, I offer EMDR intensives in a beautiful space at Balance Massage & Wellness Center in Newington, CT, as well as ongoing online therapy for clients throughout Massachusetts, Connecticut, and Rhode Island. The intensive format can be great for busy moms or professionals who don’t want to wait months to feel relief.

Whether we work together weekly or in an intensive, my approach is grounded in warmth, curiosity, and deep respect for neurodivergent experiences.

You don’t need to “fix” who you are — we just help your nervous system catch up to the safety of your present life.

If this sounds like what you’ve been needing, reach out to learn more about EMDR therapy, or schedule a free 15 minute consultation with me. Healing doesn’t have to feel clinical or cold — it can feel like coming home to yourself.